If you’re moving with children, you may anticipate some (or a lot of) resistance. Take heart. You can make the uprooting and resettling more palatable by following a few of these suggestions:
- Don’t jump to the conclusion that your children will, in fact, resist moving. They might surprise you and jump at the chance to make a new start. At any rate, don’t bring up the subject defensively. Deliver the news with a positive attitude.
- If, however, the announcement causes real trauma, sympathize sincerely. Listen to the anticipated difficulties and search for solutions together.
- Don’t disallow expression of those understandable feelings of hurt, anger and frustration. Instead, tactfully try to put a time lid on the emotional period. Let your kids know that you, too, feel sad and frustrated at times. Talk about how to deal with sadness and fear.
- If possible, consider making your move during the school year. This will give your children a chance to make new friends immediately. Moving during the summer has advantages, too, but can proglong grieving many long, lonely months in a strange town – and increase the grieving about separation from old friends and former haunts.
- Be as lenient as possible regarding long-distance calls to “back home.”
- Enlist your children’s participation in the details of the move. Try to keep them from feeling they have no control over events.
- Encourage your children to join groups, clubs and other organizations in the new location that are in line with their special interests.
- Look for as many avenues of “adventure” as you can find to convince your children that doors are opening rather than closing. On house-hunting trips, bring back lots of photos, literature and brochures – especially about things they are concerned about. Better yet, take the children along on house-hunting trips, if possible.
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